I’m in such a great place right now with the people and relationships in my life, and I wanted to share with you all how I got here! Below are 5 things I’ve learned about making friends and keeping friendships. I hope you enjoy!
1. Not everyone is going to like you
No matter how great you think you are.
As a friend, I am extremely loyal. I’ll make you laugh hysterically, give you a broad shoulder to cry on, be your 11th like on Instagram … The list goes on.
I’m pretty much the entire best friend package! However, not everyone always thinks so. It’s taken me almost 25 years to learn and accept that I’m not going to be everyone’s cup of tea.
As Dita Von Teese famously said:
“You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there’s still going to be somebody who hates peaches.”
If someone doesn’t like you, you can’t take it heart. Move along. It’s their loss not yours. Trust me!!
2. First impressions aren’t always the best impressions
Don’t get me wrong; my vibes about people are usually spot on.
However, there were a few occasions when I jumped the gun on deciding I didn’t like somebody. I used to be very quick to judge a person, or jump to a conclusion about them. This attitude got me nowhere.
Everybody has a story. A first impression doesn’t need to be a final impression. If you take the time to get to know a new person, you could end up loving them.
Unless your gut is telling you that someone is the equivalent to Billy Zane’s character in the Titanic, give him or her a second chance.
3. Your friends should be your cheerleaders
If your friends aren’t rooting for you and pushing you to grow, it’s time to audition a new squad.
A good friend should always have your best interests in mind.
They are not selfish, bitter, or jealous.
My friend’s happiness is my happiness. When a friend of mine gets a promotion at work, or really hits it off with a new guy, I’m genuinely happy for them, and vice versa.
If you have a friend that isn’t showing you the love and support you deserve, it’s time to reassess their place in your life.
4. Don’t take your friends for granted
Finding true friends, let alone finding someone you can trust nowadays is incredibly rare.
Unfortunately, there have been times when I’ve neglected to truly appreciate the people in my life. I’m the type of person to get mad over something as small as not being invited to go get ice cream on a Tuesday night (because … Cookie Dough).
In any type of relationship, you have to learn to not sweat the small stuff. If you’re lucky enough to have a great support system around you, don’t ever take it for granted.
5. The possibilities for making new friends are endless
This is not to say that we should all just drop our “day ones” and start making friendship bracelets with the people we meet in bar bathrooms. This is to say that there are a ton of really great people out there that could potentially change our lives and happiness.
I know this, because I’ve lived this. The second I started saying yes to opportunities and invitations, the more friends I made and the happier I became!
I encourage you all to do the same!
Having great friends is such an incredible feeling, and an even bigger blessing. Thank you to my friends who continue to love and support me!